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Letting go

While driving along tonight I got completely distracted by a total stranger because they happened to look like someone I knew very well at some point in my life.
I immediately thought of how people are fond of saying stuff like people come into your life for a reason and there’s a reason they’re not in it now…blah blah blah.

I’ve met so many wonderful people in my life and we’ve gone our separate ways because that’s the way life goes. I sometimes get really sad when I think of the good times we shared and things haven’t got sour we just move on. We outgrow each other and sometimes find new interests.

I then thought about the friends I do have in my life who have been there for the longest time and though we don’t see each other as often as I’d like to because of distance we are in sync with each others lives.

I also love that I’ve made so many new friendships and these relatively new friends mean as much to me as my old friends. I feel totally blessed to have so many opportunities to form new bonds and maintain old ones.

I’m still trying to figure out why some friends are no longer a part of my life and I’m wondering if it isn’t perhaps time to put the memory to rest permanently. Perhaps there is a reason they’re not in my life and it’s not a blah blah blah matter after all!


So long farewell

A couple of days ago my friends and I got together to celebrate our friendship with special friends who are returning to South Africa. Life has a way of getting you to believe that good things will last and I wish they would. Experience tells us that nothing lasts forever not the good or bad! I have to admit there are days I feel like life is an absolute party pooper.

So we ate, laughed and reminisced about the past but also looked to the future and where the road leads not just them but all of us. It’s hard to believe that our paths crossed just over two years ago and we gained a new family away from the comfort of home.

It will be sad when they finally step on that flight in about two weeks. It’s by no means the end of our friendship but we will miss them all terribly alas life’s many roads require us to take them.

God speed my dear friends!


Ordinary people

I’ll be the first to admit that I can be a really good friend, well, that’s what I think anyway. When I come across people who I could possibly form a lasting friendship with, I must admit it really throws me off-balance when I realise all the planting and watering will come from my side. To me friends are not people who hang about waiting for harvest time.

Now if you honestly think about your friends you will see exactly what I mean. There are those who run a mile when you’re facing difficulties and then can’t get any closer when the days are good. On the other hand there are those who really do stick with you through thick and thin. Sadly the way our lives are structured these days many of us have wonderful friends spread across the world. I have forged some wonderful friendships since arriving in the UK.

Then there’s the friend who just smothers you with kindness and/or complaints. You know the type when you get a text you just grind your teeth. You hide from them in the supermarkets collapsing displays in an attempt to get as far away as possible. When you’re a kind-hearted long-suffering person who has such friends you don’t have the heart to say ” I know we’re just friends and I wish we were so much less” The key to these friendships is small doses. Just enough not to make you sick.

I have been thinking about friendship quite a bit the last few days. Family is important to me but friends are equally important, after all you need somebody to complain about your family to! This post goes out to all the amazing people whose paths I’ve crossed and have taught me so many lessons about myself. Thank you for allowing me to be myself. To those who’ve just ground their teeth on seeing this post…oops!


Yakety Yak

It’s almost three years now since my family arrived in Birmingham. These days I miss some simple things from back home. The thing I missed the most though and feared I would lose my mind over in those early days was conversation. Those days were very bleak and I would look forward to going to local shops just to have minimal contact with adults. My husband worked away from home so it was quite lonely hanging around with my very young children.

Of course things are very different now and I have amassed a wonderful group of friends who I love meeting with and having wonderful laughs. We are all so very different yet those differences make our friendship really special. I’m so thankful for people who were willing to give a talkative, conversation loving South African a talking chance!


The gift of friendship

As I get older I realise the importance of friends. When you’re younger they seem so much easier to acquire like a new coat and of course anything will do most of the time. There is a time in all of our lives when people’s opinions and affections no matter how shallow mean so much to us. I’m so glad I’ve reached the place in my life where I can throw meaningless friendships overboard because the truth is nobody needs friends who are just takers and drain the life out of you.

I am truly blessed with some amazing friends. Some I have known most of my life and love that we’ve travelled through life enjoying many experiences and hopefully growing wise along the way. My new friends are just as amazing and make living in England so bearable. Family is the most precious gift but great friendships are just as important.

Great friendships are priceless and good friends are precious. Cherish them both!


Comment, like and share

I remember the absolute excitement when I joined the biggest online community that connected you with friends around the globe. The joy of finding long-lost friends just kept me coming back for more. They find you or you find them and it takes about a day to catch up with all you’ve missed out on. After being totally thrilled to make contact you come to the stark realisation that you now have very little in common with your contacts. There are cases of course where you ignite old flames of friendship and it progresses steadily.

It’s crazy to think that thirty years ago visiting neighbours unannounced, calls to landlines and getting the daily newspaper was the order of the day. These days most conversations seem to take place online and via instant messaging services. In my opinion tone and intent are often lost in translation leading to many misunderstandings. Nothing beats a good old-fashioned person to person conversation. There is no substitute for human contact-yet!


Judge not

It’s been quite some time now since I’ve decided to have a positive attitude towards people I meet for the first time. I must admit it’s not been very easy. I really love meeting people and making friends but sometimes it seems almost impossible to get a conversation going.
There is nothing more frustrating than drawing conversation like water from a rock. At this point I usually have to admit that it’s a pointless exercise.

Of course making friends as you get older doesn’t get easier because people usually have their circle of friends. My daughters always amaze me by the ease with which they get conversations going with kids at the gym or in the park. When I ask about the other child all they know is that they’ve had fun! So maybe it’s just me who makes meeting people like a task.

So as I continue to weave my web of friendship I realise that people are individuals with their own agendas. I shall endeavour to be a good friend who does not judge people at face value!


Reminiscing

I spent the better part of my morning thinking about friends who’ve travelled in and out my life. It’s amazing how you sometimes think that part of your life will last forever. Of course there are some of those friendships that I’ve still maintained. Those seem to evolve with you through the various phases of your life. I’m so blessed to have people in my life who I call a friend.

I hope I never grow weary of meeting people and making good friends. I’ve certainly met some very awesome people since arriving on this island!


Strangers in the night

Today I had coffee with a young lady I met rather randomly on the no.8 bus!
Though I have to admit it’s not the first time I’ve gone off with relative strangers.
See I have had a practice run…whilst in South Africa I quite literally bumped into a stranger in a supermarket.We exchanged mobile numbers and a week later I drove to her house for tea.Needless to say my family were horrified and insisted on giving me codes for when they called after 45minutes.I didn’t see her again after that visit…strangely random!

This is something I’ve learned since moving to the uk…you just have to take chances if you want to create a social life for yourself.Of course along the way you also have to realise that there are people who are just not meant to be part of that social life!
So here’s to many more coffee dates…cheers!