Life, Love, and Passports

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It’s easier to leave than to be left behind

After reading what seemed like some of the most devastating stories in the news the past week or so I have felt deeply for the families who are left behind to pick up the pieces following the tragic loss of loved ones.

I really despise the fact that death is one of those occasions where nothing more can be said by the one who ceases to breathe. There are no answers just unanswered questions. Death has proven itself to be a thief in the night. There is no way to prepare or avoid it. It just happens without warning!

Life hands out different measurements to each of us. Since we’ve no idea how much time we have I guess the idea is to make the most of our time. The challenge is to be the best we can be.
Love, laugh and and above all forgive. No regrets!

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Forgiveness is hard work yet so rewarding!

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Yesterday my husband and I celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary. I just can’t believe how quickly the years have gone by. Though I must admit in the tough times it seemed like a life sentence in solitary confinement.
After all marriage is a bit like a prison sentence. Love being the crime. Sometimes it’s premeditated and other times it’s just a crime of opportunity.

Being selfless is one of the biggest lessons I’ve learnt from being married. You cannot be selfish and claim to love somebody it just doesn’t add up. The art of negotiation quickly became my life line and these days getting along does seem to be getting easier!

Marriage is a beautiful gift and needs to be cherished and nurtured!


How I met my mother

Happy mothers day to all the amazing moms. Whether you’re fortunate enough to have just one or crazy enough to have a tonne. To those with empty arms waiting patiently and sometimes anxiously if you’ve cared for somebody else’s child you’re a mom in my eyes.

This is a day to celebrate the woman who gave you life! Gifts aren’t everything but it is a way to show that you care. So whatever you present the first lady in your life with make sure it’s heartfelt. It is traditionally a day of flowers and chocolates how lucky am I because I love them both. Sadly though I’ve had my day in March but what the heck I’ll celebrate again today because I deserve it.

So here’s hoping you have a day that is tailor-made for you. Filled with love and gratitude. Moms are not perfect but they sure do try their best. Today is the day to focus on the victories not the shortcomings of mothers. Truth is nobody is perfect. Let it be a day of reconciliation and peace because it’s naïve to think that everybody appreciates their mother. We have one life let’s make it count.

Happy mothers day!


How do I love thee? Let me count the ways…

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, — I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! — and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

Elizabeth Barret Browning

This is such a beautiful piece of poetry. Now I’ve had this habit for as long as I can remember where I just randomly ask my husband to tell me not why but how much he loves me. The results are always amusing and I think it’s mainly because I don’t give him time to make up ideal answers. His latest response was more than apples! Apples? Really? He doesn’t even like apples.

My plan is to print a copy of this poem and hopefully he’ll recite it to me and I’ll pretend I’ve never heard it before! Sounds like a winning formula to me.


Edge of glory

Warning! If you think you are going to live forever do not read any further!

As I lay in my bed last night I had the strangest thought. I was wondering what would happen if I died suddenly in my sleep. I’m not afraid of death I just wish it came with a notification. I just hate the unpredictability of waking up and finding out that I’ve died! At this point there is just no going back and making amends, reaching goals and of course telling loved ones you love them just one last time.

There are times when my mortality is foremost in my mind and I seize every opportunity and hold nothing back. There is no time like the present to live life to its full potential and at this moment in my life I really want to live with no regrets. There are some things in this life which cannot be bought. Life, love and happiness spring to mind. if you’re fortunate enough to have these then it’s time to celebrate!

‘Don’t fear your mortality, because it is this very mortality that gives meaning and depth and poignancy to all the days that will be granted to you’ Paul Tsongas.


Merry Christmas

So finally after a year of waiting Christmas day is upon us! Have a very merry Christmas and may the joy of this wonderful season fill your heart with love and gratitude.


Dear Santa

I guess Santa feels pretty special at this time of the year. I am at the point now where I feel the need to break it to my girls that he doesn’t exist. The list changes everyday and telling them the truth would save a lot of heartache. For some strange reason I suspect that my six-year-old knows the truth but is exploiting this myth.  I’d like to teach them from a young age that it’s not the season of selfish requests but a time to share and show love.

It’s the final countdown to Christmas day and the excitement is tangible. Christmas carols are in overdrive in our house and even in the car. I’m going to savour every moment so I don’t regret not getting into the spirit of the season. ‘Tis the season to be jolly!


Till death do us part

Having said those very words before I know for a fact that when you stand making that promise you believe with all your heart that you will be together until death!

Less than a fortnight ago a British couple said those very words and from news reports they were the perfect couple and very much in love. Sadly the promise to be together until death lasted just over a week. The groom was attacked by a tiger shark in the Seychelles and his bride is now in mourning. An absolute shock for her no doubt.How do you get over such an incident?

I was shocked to see the number of couples who don’t make it back home to start what is meant to be the most exciting time in their lives. Instead one party has to bury the other and sometimes families have to say goodbye to the bride and groom.

What also surprised me was the wide range of tragedies that befall the couples. Quad biking, parasailing and motor vehicle accidents as well as drownings and apparent robberies. I read stories of many more accounts of couples returning with tragic stories.

I know nothing lasts forever but is it too much to ask just to be content for more than just a moment. Tomorrow is not promised to anybody but we live in hope.


Happily ever after

I wonder who was the first author to demonize stepmothers? Why do so many fairy tales start with evil stepmothers? Surely there are some awesome moms who step into those really difficult roles and try to make the most of an awkward situation. If I had a stepmother I guess the first thing I would do is criticise  her cooking.

It is a fact of life that some people are just difficult and very hard to please. I would like to imagine that they don’t plan to be this way. Difficult situations can have several effects on people. They either make you strong and resilient or angry and defensive. I can imagine that it could prove quite a challenge living with the latter!

A mother is such an amazing gift and that gift is somewhat extended when you get blessed with a second one. It’s a pity that none of those happily ever after stories don’t end with a reconciliation. That would be the ultimate fairytale to me!