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So you’ve done nothing today?

This was the response from my five year old after I replied that I hadn’t gone anywhere today after the school run. Not even to the shops mom? Surely she should realise that home is where all of my work resides. On second thought there are many people who I meet and when I explain that I’m a stay at home mother often ask what I do all day. Perhaps visions of me lying on the couch in my pyjamas watching telly and munching on some unhealthy snacks.
Depending on the mood I’m in I may give them the pampered wife response. I guess the question I’d like to ask in return is ‘what would you do on a day at home?’ well that’s exactly what I do. Vacuuming or hoovering as its affectionately called in this part of the world. Dishes, laundry and of course picking up endless toys.

I’ve been a stay at home mom for over five years and I’ve mastered the art of owning my time. I really have enjoyed the challenge of raising my babies and the experience has taught me to dig deep when days got tough. I can’t help but feel that this phase of my life is coming to an end and I’m preparing myself mentally. My girls have been an amazing source of strength and even companionship during those early days when we arrived in the UK. We’ve come a long way since then and I’m excited for the future.


Confessions of a stay at home mother

Let me start by saying that these are actually thoughts as opposed to actual events. Now that I’ve cleared that up and hopefully this will avoid any follow-up from social services.

I’ve been a stay at home mother for just over five years most of which have been in a foreign country. Not having my extended family around and having to build new friendships and trust have been quite a challenge. So bearing this in mind it’s no wonder I often dream up scenarios for getting some well deserved alone time. While my husband is very capable of taking care of our three daughters I often feel that it’s somewhat unfair since he already has a ‘real job’. Nevertheless he gets more than his fair share of childminding.

My children along with most of the nations children have been on their summer break for just over a month now. I read an online article which described today as ‘fed up Friday’ because parents have run out of entertainment ideas and the reality of ‘back to school’ is staring us all full in the face in the malls and supermarkets.

While I know the teachers need a well deserved break I miss school because it’s a break from the monotony that is having my children home all day. Now I see you pointing your finger at me and suggesting I don’t want to take responsibility for my own kids. That couldn’t be further from the truth and I shall miss them terribly and I’ll begin the countdown to their half term break the day they get back to school.

Here are my very random thoughts!
When my girls are asleep at night I secretly wish I could pop out to do some grocery shopping. That will never happen of course because I’m too paranoid.
When my girls wake up in the morning wanting breakfast I wish I could tell them to have whatever they want.
Shopping with my girls at the mall is like mission impossible they only behave once I bribe or threaten them. I sometimes wish I could store them in the lockers provided by centre management or leave them in the car.

Having ‘confessed’ my thoughts they actually don’t seem so bad. Do they? After all I’m not suggesting building prison cells for them or giving them multiple tasks to distract them from the numerous complaints I receive in a day which prompted me to devise a system where they log their complaints by handing me a spoon. You’re only allowed two spoons in a day and after ten minutes you can verbalise your complaint. Needless to say at that point the complaint is totally forgotten or seems nonsensical to them. What a winner!

With just under two weeks to go before the girls return to school. I’m trying to figure out a strategy where they can have endless hours of fun and I can have endless hours of not worrying about their welfare. I suppose theirs is the easy part mine not so much after all I do have to appear to be responsible. Here’s to keeping up appearances!


Routine business

Today I was woken up at what seemed like the crack of dawn. You see anything before 08:30 on a weekend is insane. After a rather busy week all I want and I guess it’s what most people want is to lie in just a teeny bit longer!

People often ask me what I do to fill my days. I don’t need to do anything as anybody raising kids knows just how demanding our little ones schedules can be. As a stay at home mother I just can’t find it in my heart not to attend my girls activities.

Some days I feel like hiding under my bed and letting the activities pass me by. I quickly remind myself how blessed I am to be able to accompany them to every activity. I know they love scanning the crowd and seeing me there with my trusty camera.

So I guess the trips to school functions and after school activities will continue for a while yet. Life is a cycle and I’m spinning in the child raising capsule at this stage in my life and I love it – most days anyway!


Working nine to five

Being a stay at home mom used to be the easiest job in the world even though I was on duty all day and night. Since my girls are at school I’m now required to leave the house and am constantly in a race against time and being preoccupied with the weather comes with the territory. I’m no longer a stay at home mom but a run around mom too. I miss sleeping late each morning and being in no hurry to be anywhere in particular.

I try to make the most of each day but quietly long for the years gone by. Why do things have to change?